How to escalate the interaction

Lately, my friends and I have been talking a lot about "Sexual Escalation", so I want to talk about that too and hopefully help you guys have a better understanding of it.

I feel like a lot of people understand sexual escalation as literally, "being sexual by what you are saying, and by doing a lot of kino."

Yes, it is very important what you say and, of course, how you say it. And yes, kino is important, but...

What I am saying is that if you like a girl, you should be sexual with her 24/7 from the very first second.

Here comes the key point that many men miss. You have to be in control of your sexuality, and you have to be in control of your sexual needs and desires.

You are in control of your sexuality; sexuality is not in control of your life.
You are in control of your emotions; you don't let your emotions control your life.

That drives women crazy.

So how do you escalate?

You show her all the time that you are very sexual and a sensitive being, but for her to get a taste of it, she needs to earn it.

Look at her in a seductive, sexual way. Be very comfortable with it, but don't even touch her.

It is very important that you hold the tension and that you don't smile. If she smiles, you keep that seductive look and show her that you are seriously thinking of her in a sexual way.

She will be like, “Why is he being so sexual but not doing anything about it?”

You are not doing anything because you are in control of yourself, and she will want to break that because she is not used to seeing a man like that. That, right there, is going to make her get closer to you and be sexual with you back.

If she is a very confident woman (the one that you want to be with, anyway) she will not try to break it. She will just feel comfortable around you so she can allow herself to be herself with you and to be sexual with you, too.

You want to have sex. You love to have sex, but you understand that sex is something very beautiful, intimate, and sacred.

For you, sex is not just sticking it inside of an object.

You understand that sex is about two people getting together to enjoy the beauty of each other, and sex is the way they celebrate the joy of each other.

So even though you want to have sex, you want to find someone that is worth your time, someone that is worthy of sharing that beauty with you.

Someone that is up to your standards!

So you are not going “all the way” because you are looking for the beauty inside of her. You might find it, you might not. No, until you find something that is special about her, you will not give her any more than a friendly hug. It goes back to the post, ”it is all about her”.

I don't want to make things dramatic, you can find a lot of things that you like in a woman in a matter of seconds, but for you to go all the way, you need more than that.

Then let's say you are very close to her physically. You have your arm around her because you found something special about her.

Then you can get very close to her lips and tell her “I really want to kiss you right now, you are so sexy and beautiful but I need to get to know you better first and I am not sure if you are ready for it.” Of course, you do not kiss her.

Again, that shows that you are in control of yourself and you will not let your emotions control your life, the same way you don't punch every person in the face that makes you angry.

Here comes a part that is hard to explain. You tell her, “I am not sure if you are ready for it”, only if she is really not ready for it.

What do I mean by this?

You don't want her to just open her legs for you, she might be ready for that.
You want her to cum for you like she has for no one else because that is what makes you feel like a man.

Is there anything more rewarding in life than for a man to elicit powerful desires, passions and responsiveness from a woman? If there is, I don't know of it.

For a woman to share her orgasm with you, she must trust you. If she does not trust you, she is not yet ready for your kiss.

If she is ready and you tell her, then you will blow it.

When I say I don't want her to just open her legs for me, I mean if she will not allow herself to have an orgasm, then how is that fun for me?

Sex is a dance that takes two people. If only one is dancing, or one is only in it half ass, what is the fun in that?

So this is how you escalate: by being in control of the interaction.

I see men approach and approach women, and the first one that opens to them is the one they go for.

This is not being in control.

Women are so used to controlling the interaction and that is so boring to them. They hate that.

If a woman gets horny, she knows that all she needs to do is put some sexy outfit on, go to the first bar she sees, and she will get what she wants because she knows men are not in control.

So when you show her that you are in control, it will drive her crazy and it will make her want you more.

The more she sees that you are in control, the more she will want you.

You could be very sexual, and you could be doing a lot of kino, and talk a lot about sex. Or you could just be sexual by simply looking at her in “that” way. You are not drooling all over her like you have never seen a woman before.

There is a lot to talk about, but I hope this will give you an idea of what it truly means to escalate, and if you do want to know more about how to escalate the interaction go get my Foreplay Podcasts right now:

"Foreplay: Advanced Techniques"

"Foreplay: The Basics"

LET ME SAY IT AGAIN. YOU ARE MAKING HER WANT YOU MORE AND MORE AND MORE (ESCALATING) BY BEING IN CONTROL OF YOURSELF AND OF THE INTERACTION.

"300"

So I just want to say thank you so much to all the great responses that I got after I posted “It is all about her”.

You guys really made me happy saying all the things you had to say you inspire me to keep going.

So I just saw “300”

I really like it since I saw it in the I-max I really got to experience it.

What I want to say is that this film is all about real man.

Men that know what they want, men that have real passion about life, man that believe in something and are ready to die for it, men that are not scared to go after what they want.

I know that this film is an extreme example but that is what women are attractive to, man that has a “back bone”.

If you want women to like you find your passion in life, find what is it that you want so badly that you are ready to die for it and go after it.

When you do that women will run after you.

Be the man that she has fantasy's about since she was a little girl.

I know I am being extreme here but the idea is that if you get half of what I am trying to say it will be so powerful for you.

Keep your cool when things get hot, don't be scared to be vulnerable in front of her, don't be scared to ask her for advice.

Respect yourself and respect her, treat her as equal (not more like a lot of "nice guys" do and not less like a lot of "bad boys" do)

So this film make me think about all this things so I wanted to share them with all of you.

PS: Same feeling I get from “Sin City”

It is all about her.

OK if you want to be successful with your interaction with women I will give you a very simple way of doing it.

You should also keep it on the core of your interaction with women.

Most guys are thinking what do I say to a woman so she can like me.

This is the very first mistake man do.

First of all the question is not “whether does she likes you” the question is “whether do you like her”

When you talk to her look at her, search for the beauty inside of her, find what makes her different from all the rest of the women that you have ever met before.

What makes her unique.

I will go that far to even say forget that you even have a dick.

Concentrate on her and when you need your dick I promise you it will be there.

If you do that you will have so much more things to talk about because it will be so easy for you to connect with her and to find a common grown, to find a place where you connect with her.

It is not just her face, her figure, or her voice.

Look into her eyes and find what is behind them, find her spirit and let it be free.

Allow her to be herself with you.

Find the little baby girl that is trying to be a grown mature woman.

If you can do that, women will not be able to say no to you even if they want to, and if they do say no is because they want to say yes so badly that is scaring them.

For those women you can not do anything about they do not want to allow themselves to be free and that is something that they need to work on.

I think what I am trying to say it is described best on this quoth form the film “Don Juan DeMarco”

Women react to me the way that they do, Don Ottavio,
because they sense that I search out the beauty that
wells within them, until it overwhelms everything, and
then they cannot avoid their desires to release that
beauty and envelope me in it." Don Juan DeMarco

When you do talk to her feel her softness and warmness and that will make her weightless.

Smell her perfume and experience how does it make you feel how it brings tears to your eyes.

I want you to fell how she smells like angels ought to smell.

If you do all this instate of thinking about your dick and instate how can you get her to get in bed with you, you will be able to get a lot more quality women in your bed.

I do believe women are Gods master peace, they are the Gods best creation, they are the best art peace in the world so I treat it and appreciate it in that way.

It hurts me to see guys mistreat this art, but what hurts me even more is to see women mistreat themselves.

When I was a kid my mom use to say “there is nothing more powerful them a woman that knows her price”.

PS: let me brag a bit yesterday after AoA I went to celebrate our successful kick ass workshop with all the instructors we go to have diner and there comes the waitress of course all the instructors jump on her.
But who got her phone number? Me.
Why? I can tell you is not because I know the best technic, not at all.
It is because I did everything I just describe.

All I do is: I do what I just describe and I say “hi” and the rest just unfold right before my eyes.

The right discipline

A man is born gentle and weak.
At his death he is hard and stiff.
Green Plants are tender and filled with sap.
At their death they are withered and dry.
Therefore the stiff and unbending is the discipline of death.
The gentle and yielding is the discipline of life.

Verse 76

Soft and weak overcome hard and strong.

Verse 36

Lao Tzu

March 8: the international day of the woman.

Hi guys I just want to remind every men out there that today March 8 is the international day of the women.

Since I love women so much this is easily my favored holiday of the year.

I want to encourage every men to show their appreciation for all the women in their life a little more today.

Call them and tell them how much you appreciate them and how happy you are to have them in your life.

Start with your mom.

Also all the new women you meet today give them a little more then usual.

Love and light to all of you.

From the Captain.

Do you love your mom?

Here is a very touchy subject that I want to talk about.

I hope that it comes out right.

It is about your relationship with your mom.

I have been thinking a lot about this the last few days and I was debating whether I should write about it or not.

Basically I believe to be good with women you have to be able to have a good relationship with your mom.

See I love my mom I even called her last night to tell her that I am going to write about this and she said that I should do it, so I am.

See you have met, you do meet and you will meet a lot of women in your life, but there is one that is for life.

If a woman blows you off you know you turn the corner and you can meet an other one.

But if you mom blows you of in anyway it gets right trough you, it gets straight to your hard and it hurts.

So if you read my post “Women want a man that can handle them” it is the same principal.

You have to know how to “handle” your mom and I do believe she will be the hardest one to “handle”.

What I mean by this is she is the hardest one because she knows you the best, and she loves you the most, she will love you more then any women you will ever meet.

So you cannot play games with her, with her you have to be real, and that is how you should be with any woman.

So when your mom is on your case or when she is mean to you, or when she is not being supportive, is because she wants to know that you love her.

She cannot ask “do you love me” and you don't have to even say it with words if you don't want.

Show it to her.

It took me a long time to understand all this.

See I left home when I was 17 and I came to USA (I am from Bulgaria). It is 8 years later I have seen very little of my mom.

Every time a call her she will be almost always telling me that I wasn't doing something right, and it hurt me so much because I am all alone in USA and I try hard and I would of love to had her support.

So we would fight a lot and it was a big mess.

So know that I understand women and life so much better, my relationship with her now is great.

Now I know that all she wanted is to know that I love her and that I miss her.

I call her more often now, I banter with her, I shear my fun times, I tell her how I pick up women, I share with her my successes and my pain.

She still try to tell me what to do and how to do it. I just let her speak, I let her finish, so she knows that I care what she thinks and then if I like it I will tell her so if not I will tell her so too and she loves me for it.

Is great, it feels great too. It feels good to have her support.

I will tell you what dough it is fucking hard to do all this, again because you cannot just leave her and go find an other mother.

If you know how to interact with your mom you will know how to interact with any woman.

So if you want to be better with women call your mom right now.

Tell her how much she means to you, tell her how much you love her, tell her what you have been up to, ask her what she thinks about it.

I guaranty you that if you can do this right you will be instantly a better man and women will be more attracted to you.

PS: by the way this is photo is of my mom and I from like 8-9 years ago when I was 16.
So cute

Women want a man that can handle them

When you talk to a women you want to approach her from a point of Fun and Curiosity.

Women want a man that can handle them!

I heard so many women tell me “He knows how to handle me” that is of course if they speak about a man that they like. Or my other favorite is “I love to be man handled”

What is that women mean when they say that?

For a women is wrong to ask for attention and I will not even mention sex.

Also women are emotional creatures and are very in-tune with there feelings and emotions.

They understand one other without words she does not need to tell her girlfriend that she is feeling bad today she knows it just by hearing her voice.

You have to base your interaction with a woman base on this two main factors about women.

What does a woman do when she wants your attention, or when she is feeling hurt, or when she is feeling lonely, or even when she is feeling fat?

She will start a fight with you for no reason, she will start blaming you for something that you are doing, or everything that you are doing, and of course you can never win.

Here comes the part where she wants you to know how to handle her.

Very key point here.

She hate herself for starting this fight, she knows it is pointless but what she hates even more is that you don't know that is pointless and that you try to look for reasons behind her action, then you start blaming her for going crazy, or even worst taking the responsibility of her going crazy.

She just wanted your attention that is all.

So give it to her don't fight with her.

Be the man she wants you to be.

All you need to do at this point look at her like she is your cute baby girl and don't take her seriously.

At moments like that is especially important to keep your cool and to approach her from a place of curiosity and fun.

Do not go into it, don't ignore her but don't take her seriously, have fun.

Most likely she just wanted to have sex.

So I would even go that far to say that the best way to deal with the situation is to throw her down and have sex with her right there and then.

God she will love you so much for it.

This is what she means by saying “He knows how to handle me”

Because women can not handle themselves when it comes to this little stupid games that they play so the need you to be the man that can help them win the game.

I love women, I adore them so I love this little games, I think they are very cute.

Here is an other key point.

Women play this games from the moment they meet you. From the very first second.

Keep this in mind next time you think you got blown off by a girl, may be she was just playing a game with you, may be she was just testing you to see if you can step up.

She wants to know if you can handle her from the very first second.

When you leave the first time she plays a game with you, then obviously you don't know how to handle her. Further more is that if you cannot handle her in a simple little test that she did, she will be thinking "how the hell are you going to handle me in the bedroom?".

PS: A little story to back my post:

I met a girl, the attraction was on.

We move to an other bar with few of my friends and her friend.

When we were in this other bar she started flirting with my friend in a very obvious way.

I loved seeing this because I knew exactly what she was doing, she was testing me.

I looked at her and I was thinking to myself “oh god you are so cute”

So after 5 or 10 min of that she realized that I don't give a fuck I was even happy for her that she is having fun. (felt little sorry for my friend because he tough he stole my girl, and she was just using him)

What you think happened next?

She came in and she throws herself at me and she tells me “you are so cool, you give me my space, and you let me be. You know how to handle me”

That was in about 2 hours after I met her.

You guess what happen next...