Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Love Yourself, do not love the fact the she is with you.

If you ask anyone in the world what do I need to do to be better with women most likely you will hear this reaction “be yourself”, “be confident”.

I will tell you the same be yourself, be confident.

OK easy isn't it?

What if you are not confident and if you don't like yourself?

I will tell you if you are in that place in your life where you are not happy with who you are the road a head it will not be easy and it will be long but I guaranty you that the price on the end of the road is better than anything else in life. It is better then being with the best top model in the world. I am talking about personal happiness for life.

So where do you start?

I like that saying “Think Big, Start Small”

Strive to better yourself every day, and do it for yourself not for her. Everyday before you go to bed ask yourself this question “what did I learn today that I didn't know this morning when I woke up?” . Build on that try to surpass yesterdays action.

Like I said start small if you are already reading this then you are on the right track because you are seeking a way to better yourself. Start with reading inspirational books, with exercising regularly and with eating healthier.

Just by doing this few little things you will be amazed by how much better you feel about yourself.

By striving to better yourself everyday slowly you will get the priceless attitude of “I want you but I don't need you”

You do want her but if she is not in that place of her life where she wants you back you will be thinking to yourslef, "oh well that is OK because I am happy with myself, and I do want to know more about you, but if that isn't going to happen, I will still be as happy as I was before I met you".

Man I guaranty you if you have this believe system women will smell it on you form a thousand miles away and they will want to come and test you if you can hold your ground and if you do she will love you.

That is exactly what they call being confident

Wednesday, July 15, 2009


I am going to be straightforward with you and cut through the bullshit.


As Jesus’ words on the cross “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”

Here is the exercise for you:

Answer these questions:

Do you know what you are doing?
Do you know why you are doing what you are doing?
Are you aware of your actions?
Are you present to the things you are doing at every given moment?
Are you aware of the words that are coming out of your mouth? Or they are just coming out based on a reaction that was triggered by something?

You are stuck! Do you ever find yourself dating the “same” woman over and over again? Do you find yourself in the “same” situations over and over again? Do you find yourself repeating the “same” mistakes over and over again?

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”
~Albert Einstein

You are living in an illusion!
Wake the fuck up!

See I know that choose is a nice word and we all want to have choose. If you think you have choice will you keep on choosing dysfunctional relationships or any other negative situation in your life? Choice can only happen if you are present and conscious in the moment. Choice implies a high degree of consciousness. Without it you have no choice. Choice begins the moment you disidentify from your conditioned patterns, the moment you become present. That goes to say that you are unconscious. Which means that you are compelled to think, feel, and act in certain ways according to your patterns and conditioning. Some think that the more you have in the world in form of money, intelligence, resources and so on the more choose you have. I want to make it very clear that how smart, intelligent, good, attractive, generous, funny, wild and clever you are does not have anything to do with how present you are. All these things are wonderful, but they become a problem when you start identifying yourself with them. The more you identify yourself with this external stuff the less presence you have and the more unconscious you are.

You know that voice in your head? That voice is your biggest obstacle to being present. Why do you think people go out to bars, clubs and parties and drink themselves to unconsciousness? May be people do that not because they want to become unconscious but simple because they want to become conscious. They want to make that voice in their head shut the fuck up for a moment and just let them be, although they are not aware that this is one of the biggest reasons why they are drinking so much (you can easily replace drinking with drugs). That voice in your head has a life of its own. That voice in your head is controlling you, it is telling you what to do and is tiring as fuck to listen to it all day long. Most people are at the mercy of that voice; they are possessed by it, by the mind. And since the mind is conditioned by the past, you are then forced to reenact the past over and over again. The voice in your head (that you think is you) is conditioned by your past so it always seeks to re-create what it knows and is familiar with. Even if it is painful, at least it is familiar. It always attaches to what it knows. The unknown is dangerous because it has no control over it.

Is there any resistance anywhere in you to what I am saying? Are you (your mind) totally confused by what I am saying? Are you ready to defend yourself and prove me wrong? Let me save you some time. Yes, I am totally and completely wrong and you are totally and completely right…

Take a moment and breath in everything that just happened. If you have to - go back, and read it again, and take it in, and notice where it is landing.


Someone, not sure who, has said:
“The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory.”

Well how does it feel in your body to have nothing to fight against? Or do you keep on fighting? Or may be you just scratched me off, judging and thinking that I am simply crazy and you cannot argue with a crazy person? Does the voice in your head telling you that I am wrong? Does that voice feel threatened in any way? Well again you are totally right and yes, I am completely crazy…

Are you confused yet?

See we all have created patterns and ways of being that have served us greatly at some point or another in our lives. If you still have resentment for your parents about something that they have done or have not done, thinking that they had the choice, you are still identifying yourself with those patterns. And unfortunately for us all those patterns have taken over us. They have been taking over, with us not even being aware of it. As a result of that we are acting most of the time from that place without us even knowing about it or even being aware of it. We do not have a choice any more. Our life is being run by it.

It seems like we, our parents, our intimate partners, or our friends have a choice, but that is an illusion. Nobody chooses dysfunction, conflict, and pain. They happen because there is not enough presence. You have not quite woken up yet. In the mean time, the voice in your head and the conditioned patterns of your mind are running your life.

So go back to where I said that you do not have a choice and that you are living in an illusion and just for a moment check the idea that I might be right. I am not saying that I am, I am simply asking you to just try on the idea, the concept that I might be right. Wear it on like you are trying a new shirt and see how it feels on your body and how you look with it.

So what I would like you to do is:

Sit down and write down every place you find patterns in your life. May be you always end up with the same kind of woman? May be you keep on doing the same mistake over and over again? May be you are finding yourself in the same kind of problems over and over again? Also simply look if you are thinking over and over about the same things. Since we are here to learn about women look for your patterns with women. But it does not really matter. I think in “Land Mark” is that they say, “the way you do anything is the way you do everything”.

Very important:
Do not judge it in anyway. Whether is bad or good - it does not matter. Who are you to determine good from bad? What is good anyway? What is bad? It simply is!

The reason I want you to do this is:
The only way to change a behavior, pattern is to bring awareness to it, to simply notice it and see it there.

Or another thing you r can do is:

Come to one of the many workshops I have across the country and I would be your tour guide caring a flashlight that I will shine it into the darkness. I use the world darkness simply because if you are not aware of something, and you do not know of it, you are on the dark about it. The awareness we can bring to it in a workshop environment is the light that shines, and no darkness can exist in the presence of light.

It will not disappear but you will have a choice around it. You still might want to choose to act from that place but it is no longer controlling you now, you have the choice to keep acting from that place or not.

“The eye with which I see God is the very same eye with which God sees me”
~Meister Eckhart

Email me or call me at:
415.531.2487 to get info for a workshop coming up close to you

Love and Light on your way

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Words - he said, she said...

Woman is the devil!

Nice and slowly. Beauty is a destructive angel. How could anything that looks so good be so bad? In the end, she gets them all. They think they can handle her…

Woman is an angel!

Her beauty brings tears to my eyes...
Her divine feminine opens me to God...

Which one is it?

Hmm hold on now, no one in my life has hurt me more then women have, no one have fucked me up more then women. Well of course they are the devil!

Hmm hold on again but no one has giving me as much pleasure and light as women have. OK then they are Angels.

But my life is so peaceful, calm happy and quite when there are no women in it, and it is wild, chaotic and crazy when I have a woman next to me.

But even in some religions woman is look at as the devil for she is the temptation for lust and desire. I think Adam and Eve fucked it all up for us.

But some ancient cultures respected the feminine greatly. Lau Tzu refers to the feminine as the mother of all things and that we all come from the mother and we all return to her. He says, “The Tao is called the Great Mother”

I am getting so confuse my head is spinning I cannot make up my own mind. What do you think? Are women Evil or Angels? I cannot tell anymore. I must be in my feminine right now, or something. Hold on, give me a minute, let me take few deep breathes… Oh I think I got it. I tell you what it is: It is words themselves. I tell you words are a tricky thing. Words are one-sided! Everything that can be thought in thoughts and expressed in words is one-side, only a half. All such things lack wholeness, fullness and unity. But the world itself, existence all around us and within us, is never one-sided. Never a woman (or man) is entirely wholly evil or wholly angel; never is a person entirely holy or sinful. That only appears to be the case because of the illusion that time is real. That is why great teachers like Buddha or Jesus always have to speak of good and bad, deception and truth, suffering and liberation and so on. As this example of the words of Lau Tzu:

When people see something as beautiful.
other things become ugly.
When people see something as good,
other things become bad.

Being and non-being create each other,
Difficult and easy support each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low depend on each other.
Before and after follow each other.

There for the Master
acts without doing anything
and teaches without saying anything.
Things arise and she lets them come;
things disappear and she let them go.
She has but does not possess,
acts but does not expect.
When her work is done, she forgets it.
That is why it last forever.
~Lau Tzu
~Tao Te Ching

And yet so far in this post alone I have use over over 400 words. I want you to look at the words and use them as signs pointing you to that pure state of being, the place of original magic. I am not even here I am just guiding you, not teaching you. I will use words to guide us all to go deeper and deeper. I want you to simply observe how different words trigger you and what is your attachment to them. Some words will trigger bad emotions and some will trigger good emotions. All this emotion triggering is happening unconsciously. Those emotions are trigger from the definition that you have to the words. You have no control of those emotions because you are not conscious of your mind. Unconscious assumptions crate emotions in the body, which in turns generate instant reactions. Do your best not to react without being conscious to your reactions. Try your best to observe what reaction is coming up. For example if I tell you that “you are a fucking genius and a handsome mother fucker” or that “you are worthless peace of shit not worth living”. What is happening as you are reading this? Does the first one making you feel really good, may be make you smile a bit, or may be you are having a hard time letting that in? What about the second one? Are you ready to defend yourself and prove me that I am wrong or may be you were feeling down and now you found some comfort in those words thinking something like “see I knew it even he says it.”?

How funny are we people ah? These are just words why do we put so much attachment to them? Anyway just pay attention to your own reaction. The story that is coming up to your head as you are reading the words that I use or say in Podcast or videos. Be like: “hmm there it is this emotion is coming up again I am wanting to defend myself right now.” Or “oops I missed it I just reacted without being aware.” Or anything of that nature. It is quite entertaining when you start observing yourself, so now you can never be bored. You can laugh into tears when you start seeing all the crazy shit you are doing without you even knowing that you are doing it. And the good news is that the act of observing is an act of the self and not of the mind. So the very act of observation is bringing you into presence and not only into presence but into a conscious presence.

For now lets go back to exploring words. Another funny thing about words is that we all have different attachment to words. But somehow and for some weird reason that is not clear to me yet, we assume that the attachment and the meaning that we put to a word is the same one that everyone else puts.

That is why the words of Jesus for example have been interpreted in millions of different ways for the last 2000 years. Every one interprets them the way they find fit for them. Whether there are used for good or bad intentions. Here some more words about that from Meister Eckhart: “Indeed, I tell you the truth, any object you have on your mind, however good, will be a barrier between you and the inmost truth.” He goes on by saying “The just man loves God for nothing…” Of course the same can be said about Buddha, Lau Tzu and everyone else.

I very much hope that you are not here looking for some new theory or some new idea that you can put into use. Matter of fact I am trying to help you get rid of them all. They just get on your way of relating. As I said already everything that can be thought in thoughts and be said in words is one-sided. Every theory out there has to it a totally contrary one to it that is equally true. Some part of the people identify with one and some with the other. See theories and ideas are mind made things, ego made things. The more you are identifying yourself with certain idea or theory the more you are identifying yourself with the ego and less with your essence of your pure being, presence. So please try your very best not to attach yourself to words and the meaning that you (your ego) has put to them. Please, as I said, use the words I give you for guidance, use them like signs. Like a sign that says left or right and you follow them and see where they take you. Listen to the underling field of stillness from out of which the words come, there is a field of stillness that is both within and without. Gaps between the words, a silent space in between the words and simply be aware of that dimension.

Deeper teaching is not and through the words. The deeper teaching lays in the dimension of stillness.
~Eckhart Tolle

Forget everything that you have ever learned about relating or intimacy. Become as a newborn baby as he/she has no ego or attachment to form and has zero problems relating to anyone or anything.

To make this fun lets explore the meaning of the word love for example.
First of all what is the meaning of love for you?
I live in San Francisco with all the new age hippies (just right here did anyone felt offended by the words “new age hippies” or did anyone laugh and thought, “yes I know those”. Are you identifying yourself in someway with those words?) they all use the word love all the time. I also know of people that have used it once or never in his/her lifetime and I am sure the attachment and the value they put to it is a lot different.

Do a bit of research, go to few different dictionaries and find out what they have to say about “the L-word”:

For the Ego love is possessive and addictive clinging that can turn into hate within a sec.

Here is what the bible had to say:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

- Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Last but not least remember to have fun with words just like Mike Myers did in the “The Love Guru”. Like for him Intimacy is “Into-Me-I-See”


Nowhere is “Now-Here” come on that is creative, funny and very true, simply genius.

Or this one is really funny exploring what Bible stands for:
B - asic
I - nstruction
B - efore
L - eaving
E - arth

Seriously now please DO NOT ever take yourself too seriously.

Here try this exercise for a day and have fun with it:

First of all give the definition of these words (down below) that you have for them. Then find two-three women, I do not care if you know them or not friends, strangers or family and ask what is the definition that they give to these words. Then find out two-three men and ask them what is the definition of these words for them.

We started with “love” so lets find out more definitions of that word.
Love _____________________________________
Intimacy __________________________________
Relationship _______________________________
Happiness _________________________________
Fear ______________________________________
Ego ______________________________________
Good _____________________________________
Bad ______________________________________
Evil ______________________________________

Do, as many words as you can you do not have to do all of them. Feel free to find the meaning of words that you are curious to find the meaning of.

The Tao does not take sides:
It gives birth to both good and evil.
The Master does not take sides;
he welcomes both saints and sinners.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Have You Ever Lost Your Power As a Man In a Relationship?

Have you ever felt like you are on top of the world? Having your life together going places meeting a beautiful woman falling in love and few months into the relationship you end up feeling small, insecure and needy?

Ask yourself if you or anyone you know has or had both of this: loving, passionate, steamy hot, relationship and also is living life from the depths of his integrity as a man fully living his purpose and mission in life?

Are you ready to have both? Well if you are call me and come to my workshop!

How can a man be as productive, as powerful, as focused, as grounded, as solid, in the midst of a passionate relationship as he can be when he has no women in his life?

When we do not have a feminine partner next to us, I notice that we put all our energy and focus on either enjoying the simple beauty of life, the little moments. Or we put all our energy and focus on giving our gifts to the world.

I personally know men that purposely stay away from women because they see them as a distraction from where they are headed in life. After all it takes a lot of energy to maintain a healthy relationship doesn’t it? And lets be totally honest with each other women are pain in the ass!

To make it even more complicated women are way more attracted to us when we are so clear and focused on our mission in life. As we experience ourselves being clear, solid, focused and women attracted to us soon we find ourselves in a relationship with most likely a phenomenal woman.

As soon as we experience some depth of intimacy with this phenomenal woman, we begin to feel weaker as a man. We start to lose clarity, focus, and solidness. As a result of that our phenomenal woman experiences less attraction towards us. As a result of her being less attracted we start to feel even less focused, clear and solid. Not only that but pretty soon we become needy. Somehow from being on top of the world having our shit together giving our gifts, hooking up with a phenomenal woman to finding ourselves in a vicious circle feeling insecure, uncertain, and needy.

What happened along the way?
Shouldn’t things now be even better then before, after all now we have a phenomenal woman next to us to support us and encourage us to be better men in the world?

How can we stay with our hearth fully open to the world and our woman, while we maintain strong solid power with which we can penetrate the world and our woman right open?

Have you ever noticed that for us men we can do one or the other but not both at the same time?

It is easy to penetrate our women strongly and powerfully at the beginning of a relationship because our heart is not been fully open to her yet. As the relationship deepens our hearts open bigger to her and the more open our heart is the less powerful as a man we feel. It is like we are fully disconnected from our power when we are around our woman.

Maybe even at times when you are out in the world away from your woman you experience some sense of power and in the back of your mind you are think “God I wish she was here to see this”. Unfortunately not only that she wasn’t there to see it but also the moment you see her you completely lose it again. The moment you see her your heart simply blooms open and you instantly get disconnected from your power.

What would it be to be able to fully love her, heart wide open, and violently f*cking her all at the same time. Your love so big that it actually hurts of how much you love her, and yet you are taking her, penetrating her deeper then she has ever been before. Open heart and a hard cock.

Friend of mine the other day told me “as soon as she became sacred to me I was not able to spit at her” and I thought to myself “well I do not think that she would like you to spit on her if you do not see her as sacred.”

How can a man have both at the same time?

Samurais and Native Americans practice this. The practice to kill your opponent with love. To hunt with love. To f*ck with love. As Deida likes to say “murder her open to God with your f*ck”

Where can you start your practice?

Well like with every practice first start to pay attention to when you are feeling your power and when you are not. Start to feel when your heart is wide open and if you are feeling love whether is towards a flower, nature or a woman and notice if you can feel your power as a man in that moment. Become present to how you lose your power as your heart opens. Become present to how your heart closes as you are in your power.

From the place of being aware of those changes you can start to have a bit more choice around it.

Take full responsibility for creating your life. Be accountable for what you are creating. Know that there is not such a thing as the perfect woman. Know that if you are power is not rotted in love no matter with what woman you are with you will lose your power when your heart opens and as a result she will lose attraction to you as man. If you are in your power but you are not loving her she will also get turned off by you, your power will disgust her.

Once you can feel your heart fully open and maintaining your power as man and you can walk down the street maintaining both you will have to power to do something about any woman that you desire.

I have only one question for you:

If you are keep reading if not you can stop right here.

Call me at 415.531.2487 and sign up for my workshop.

In it, you will get:

  • the very core basic foundation from which to interact with a woman so she is turn on by you
  • secret technique to create instant trust with a woman
  • simple eye contact method to have woman melting in your arms
  • how to touch a woman in way which she can feel your sexual power
  • how to speak to a woman so she can get what you are saying
  • how to avoid getting stuck or blocked in any stage of your relationship

Contact me at 415.531.2487 for more info.

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Real World Seduction


How you been?

You have not heard from me in quite a while. I have been in search of myself. Also I a lot has happen in the last month all too much all too fast, all at the same time. At some moments was just a bit too much for my system. But I am glad to say that apparently the old saying “What does not kill you makes you stronger” which I have heard so many times from so many different people in the last month, it seems to be true.

I have spent this time mostly alone all though with the amazing love of my amazing friends all around me who were just a hand away at any time, and trust me I had to reach for it a lot. All thru out my life whenever I had a lot going on I would always keep myself extra busy with a million things like work, friends, parties, drinking, women and so on, just so I do not have to feel the pain. This time for the first time in my life I decide to just be with at all as it’s happening. I stayed home being with it all. I have to tell you it was one of the hardest things I had to do but I am glad I did it. I am much better man for it. I feel much more stable, balanced and grounded. I have learned so much about myself and about life as I was just looking within, spending time meditating and praying.

Now I am ready to go back and teach from a new place. A place that is new for me but it feels fucking great to be here, I wouldn’t want to be any other place but here. I am ready to teach from a place that is more open, more present, more real, more true. And if that is not enough all this time I have spent looking within I have had an amazing revolutions around women and especially seduction that I cannot wait to share with you in my workshop which by the way is next weekend July 11-13.

My workshop as we here at LVO3 named it is “Real Word Seduction”. Seduction is an art. Art that women have studied explored and perfect since the beginning of time and may be for the first time in the history men have to study it too. One of the most powerful things about my workshop is that I work with women that are very in touch with their feminine side and have great awareness. And not only that but they are willing to drop their guard down and to share with you about the their “games”.

See as I mention already women are master seducers and they love to play games and to throw you for a loop so the more you get suck into her games the worst it gets. You are playing a game that you are doom too lose simply because they are way better then you can ever be. So here is my tip for you and a little secret. Women play those games and secretly inside they are rooting for you they want you to win. But may be you are asking yourself already “but how can I win at a game that I do not even know how to play and even if I knew how can I win if they are the masters at it?” Well simple you do not have to win a game that you are not playing ;). I know it is a mind fuck and it is hard even for me to get my head around it. And of course there is a lot more to it then just this. So here is my tip. Drop your fucking games whether you come to my workshop or not fucking drop it. This is advice coming from a man that is a “Master Seducer”. Fuck man so many people have refer to me as Don Juan DeMarco. You know what fuck that…

I have always been surrounded with beautiful women and my ego was way over my head and it was controlling my fucking life. The moment I drop my ego and my games I had more women and better women around me then ever before and not only that but those women could relax around me and trusted me way more then I could ever thought I woman could trust a man in such a short time. And I do not know about you but there is nothing hotter for me then having a woman trust.

When a woman just looks at me completely relax being herself and says: “I love being here with you, I feel like I can fully relax and be myself with you. I usually do not feel that way with man.” I heard these words from a woman that was naked in my bed and I did nothing to seduce her. Well I do not know about you but when that happens to me my blood starts to boil and I feel so happy.

So at this point may be you are asking yourself again well how are you going to teach me about seduction when you are telling me to drop my games?

Well good question I like it. Well here is a question for you?

Have you ever studied any martial art? Or have you ever read about it or heard about it?

Well most of this martial art could be used to kill someone with it right? But they say that if you are master at martial art you never have to use it. I know a man that has studied and taught martial art for 30 years now and as far as he has told me he has needed to use it in real life only twice. Well we can explore this example in great depth and I will let you explore that for yourself and see how you can tie this concept back to seduction.

Well so I am not so coy I will add more to it. You know every little girl dreams about prince charming and to be slept of their feet right? Well there is seduction and there is seduction. There is a way to be with a woman that is fully there, fully present taking here ever so deeply, seen her bigger and deeper than she can even see herself, opening her with just one look, loving her ever so fully, holding her ever so closely, looking at her ever so openly, touching her ever so gently. It is not just her face, her figure, or her voice. Look into her eyes and find what is behind them, find her spirit and let it be free. Allow her to be herself with you. Feel her softness and warmness and feel how it brings tears to your eyes. Fell how she smells like angels ought to smell.

Well there is all that and there is playing games.

So if you are interested in still playing games well I am sorry but my workshop is not for you. If you are ready to drop your shit and be a real man. Man that is present, open, loving and giving. Man that makes a difference in the world. Man that lives a full and rich life. Well if you are ready to be that man then you definitely need to be in my workshop next weekend.

Go on there and see what Sean Messenger experience was in my workshop and sign up.

If you have any questions I will be more than happy to answer them personally. Feel free to email me at Hristiyan@me.com or feel free to call me 415.531.2487

Love and Light on your way!


Sean Messenger Experience From Hristiyan Workshop

You may know me. I'm one of the 25 best Pickup Artists in the World, apparently. But I have to confess something: I am NOTHING compared to Hristiyan. See, I've been in this game for a while. I started hanging with "naturals" when I was 12, and kept learning that way till I was 30, when I discovered DYD. Since then, I've worked with and made friends with the very best teachers and ladies men in the community. I know everyone, and everything. But I never felt the need to let someone ELSE teach me (even in the one class I did take, I ended up doing more teaching than learning).

That all changed the weekend that I decided to take Hristiyan's Innergame and Daygame Bootcamp. Hristiyan is not only my friend and my co-worker at LVO3, he's also, in a lot of ways, a mentor to me. As long as I've known him, I've marvelled at his ability to walk into a room, any room, and magnetcially draw the finest women to him with what looks like no effort. Now, I'm good at this stuff. DAMN good. But for me it's always work. I'm always putting something in. And what he did was so effortless, and it worked everywhere, on everyone. To be honest, I knew that I had to drop my ego and let him teach me, or we woudn't be able to hang out as buds anymore cos he'd keep stealing all the girls. :)

So I did it.

I wish I could tell you in full what the whole weekend was like, but there's one moment that I feel sums it up. See, me and just a small group of students spent 2 full days getting pushed and prodded and opened up and rebuilt by Hristiyan and his coaches. They found every weakness we had been hiding, pulled it out and replaced it with strength. They found why we didn't feel confident and put us through real exercises (not lectures) that built our confidence and kept it building. They pushed our limits of how great we thought we could be... and then it was time to test it with the single most challenging exercise I've ever done.

Hristiyan put his beautiful female assistant on the couch. He turned to me, and gave me a very simple directive.

"Walk over to her, sit down, and seduce her without words. No talking. You breathe, move, look, and feel the seduction."

As soon as he said this to me, I was scared and nervous as F*&^. How the hell was I supposed to do that? Then he whispered something to me, and it was like a light opening up in the clouds. I instantly understood what it was he did everytime he went out and women flocked to him like puppies who hear the word "cookie." He never needed to say anything, becuase every single move, breath, and look he sent out communicated seduction stronger than words ever could. And he had been teaching us this all weekend in all the exercises we'd done on breathing, and holding sensual eye contact, creating eye contact, and especially on touching women like a lover.

What he taught us was so simple, but so damn hard to get to... until we did the work. He taught us how to look at a woman as a lover from the very first second. And the trick to that is... if you look at her as a Lover, she looks at YOU as a Lover. No need for "escalation," or "sexually charged conversation." I looked at this beautiful woman on the couch across from me (who I'd wanted to seduce from the first moment she came into the class, but was scared, cos she was just too hot, too sexy, too out of my league), and realized that for the first time I could drop all my bullshit, all my tricks, all the pickup crap stuffed in my brain that had gotten me the success that only left me feeling like a fraud, and even more, drop all the insecurity I'd carried around since I was a geeky, skinny, nerdy teenager who couldn't get a date and couldn't figure out why it was so easy for everyone else. I dropped it all, because Hristiyan taught me the exact steps on how to really BE with a woman completely so she knows that you are the Lover she's been looking for.

I sat down. I smiled just a bit, and simply looked at her. I looked at her from the first second like i would look at a Lover in my sheets, laying back calm, sweat drying in the cool air, our breath merging as it slows. I didn't have to fake anything, and I didn't have to say anything. I could see her in my arms, taste her lips on mine, and the pure pleasure of that feeling was lighting me up and radiating to her. She got a little uncomfortable. "Aren't you going to say anything?" she asked. I nodded no, and kept looking. I breathed, deeper, slower. And I noticed she started to breathe slower and deeper with me, like magic. She kept asking questions, but they got fewer and fewer. She had started at the beginning trying to break her eyes away, but as I stayed there, her eyes stayed right with me. We had no words, and communicated far deeper and sexier than I ever could by talking. Finally, I reached over to her, slowly, slowly. I looked down for a second, then looked back up as I gently took her hand in mine. She twined her fingers around mine, and in that moment the entire world disappeared. Everyting went black and silent but for me and her in this moment, and I could feel the sexual energy pulsing from my body, into hers, and back again in a circuit. Our eyes locked and it seemed our bodies started to draw in closer like magnets, closer... closer... closer....

"OK, I think that's good for now!" Hristiyan said, and put his hands on my shoulders to pull me back gently. There was a big smile on his face. I looked around the room, and there was nothing but stunned looks and smiles on the faces of everyone, the students, the coaches, the other female assistant. They all felt it, and honestly, everyone looked pretty disappointed that they didn't get to see the kiss. I looked at the girl I had been with, and she looked pretty damn disappointed too. :)

It was like a movie. Straight up Clooney shit. And that's what I got from working with Hristiyan and his gift of teaching. Every moment with a woman, from the first second you see her through your first words, to the first kiss, till you lay her in your bed and take her to ecstacy, every moment is like a movie for her when you know what to do. You create the seduction and the sexual tension not with lines or routines or the other stuff that only gets in the way, but with everything that comes from inside. You build it with an expert who shows you how, and then it's yours forever.

When he took us out that day, I counted more women staring at me, on the street, in the stores, hell, even on the train, than ever before. I didn't have to say anything to them. I didn't have to prove how sexy I was, because thanks to Hristiyan, I was showing it every moment.

If you've seen my latest "hidden cam" video and wondered just how the hell I transformed from a dancing monkey (a good one), to a man who is just totally calm, confident, and sexual with women without seeming to even try, well, this is your answer. I learned it from Hristiyan. Take a look.

I know what you are thinking. I work with Hristiyan. He's part of my company. I coach with him at our events, and if I say good things about him, that's good for me and for business. If I say he's the best, it's good for me. And you've got a point.

But it's still the Truth.

There's a reason Hristiyan is the ONLY man I brought with me into my new company out of all the amazing teachers I know. I've worked with the very best of the best in this business. I know everybody, and have a lot of respect for their brilliance. But in my experience, no one, NO ONE is even close to Hristiyan's level. He is the best teacher, hands down, for any man, any level, any experience, who loves women and wants more choice, happiness, and fun with women in his life. If you like girls, don't waste another second. Let Hristiyan show you how to become the man that girls love.
- Sean Messenger, former Head Coach at PickUp 101,
star of DYD "Interviews with Dating Gurus," co-founder of LVO3

Friday, July 13, 2007

I am a dreamer but I am not the only one

I dream for a better, happier world where people just get along... and yes, I am a fool, but I cannot help it. I have to follow my heart.

I go about my day and I see people that are not happy. I see people that settle with what they have, from their jobs to the people in their lives, and it hurts me.

I want to see people with their heads up and a smile on.

I see people afraid to go after what they want because they're afraid to lose what they already have, even if they are not happy with it.

I see people afraid of going after what they want because they might actually get it, and that scares them.

I see people afraid to surrender themselves to their hearts because they are afraid that they might get hurt.

Basically, I see people living in fear.

I am afraid too. I am scared like a little boy, but that is why I know I have to keep going and keep trying and to see what life has in store for me.

I have to know that at least I tried.

“If I have even just a little sense, I will walk on the main road and my only fear will be of straying from it.” Lao Tzu

I will tell you that a lot of times I get scared and I want to run like a little boy back to mommy.

Other times, I feel very lonely because very few people support you when you go after what your heart wants, instead of going after what is safe or what society expects of you.

I have lost a lot of friends along the way, but I have also found out who my real friends are, friends who I know will be there no matter what.

Many times I have asked myself the question, "Am I doing the right thing?"

I will tell you, your heart always knows the truth.

I will be the first to admit that I haven't always followed my heart, but time has showed me that it was always right.

So I am a dreamer and I dream of helping people walk with their heads up and with a smile on.

I go around and I teach men how to understand women better and I like to think that I am helping them, but who am I to tell you how things are? I am only human.

I only know what I have seen. Maybe you know more than I, but that is why I am more fortunate than most of you, because I go and teach 10 people at a time and I learn from all of them.

I grow every time I teach.

The funny thing is that the more I learn, the more I see that I do not know anything.

I think Socrates once told his student, "You know more than I because the more you know, the longer it will take you to realize that you do not know anything, and since I know more than you, it will take me longer to realize that I do not know anything."

I think it was something like that, but I am not sure. I know that these were not his exact words, so I will try to search for it online and see what I can find.

“When Socrates asked the Delphic oracle who was the wisest of men, the oracle replied that it was Socrates himself. Socrates was shocked to hear it. “Who, me?” he wondered. “I don’t know anything.” But as he contemplated the oracle’s answer, Socrates realized the oracle was right. Socrates indeed was wiser than other men. At least he knew he was ignorant; the others were ignorant and didn’t know it. As long as they were ignorant of their ignorance, they could never change it.”

by Michael Bauman

I have a long way to go until I realize that.

So for now, I hope that I am changing people's lives for the better. I dream of reaching everyone that wants to be helped and I hope to learn and grow with them.

I dream of changing the world and I am sure that I am not the only one. Maybe one day I will realize that I do not know anything and I will just get lost in the void of the universe...