I am a dreamer but I am not the only one

I dream for a better, happier world where people just get along... and yes, I am a fool, but I cannot help it. I have to follow my heart.

I go about my day and I see people that are not happy. I see people that settle with what they have, from their jobs to the people in their lives, and it hurts me.

I want to see people with their heads up and a smile on.

I see people afraid to go after what they want because they're afraid to lose what they already have, even if they are not happy with it.

I see people afraid of going after what they want because they might actually get it, and that scares them.

I see people afraid to surrender themselves to their hearts because they are afraid that they might get hurt.

Basically, I see people living in fear.

I am afraid too. I am scared like a little boy, but that is why I know I have to keep going and keep trying and to see what life has in store for me.

I have to know that at least I tried.



“If I have even just a little sense, I will walk on the main road and my only fear will be of straying from it.” Lao Tzu



I will tell you that a lot of times I get scared and I want to run like a little boy back to mommy.

Other times, I feel very lonely because very few people support you when you go after what your heart wants, instead of going after what is safe or what society expects of you.

I have lost a lot of friends along the way, but I have also found out who my real friends are, friends who I know will be there no matter what.

Many times I have asked myself the question, "Am I doing the right thing?"

I will tell you, your heart always knows the truth.

I will be the first to admit that I haven't always followed my heart, but time has showed me that it was always right.

So I am a dreamer and I dream of helping people walk with their heads up and with a smile on.

I go around and I teach men how to understand women better and I like to think that I am helping them, but who am I to tell you how things are? I am only human.

I only know what I have seen. Maybe you know more than I, but that is why I am more fortunate than most of you, because I go and teach 10 people at a time and I learn from all of them.

I grow every time I teach.

The funny thing is that the more I learn, the more I see that I do not know anything.

I think Socrates once told his student, "You know more than I because the more you know, the longer it will take you to realize that you do not know anything, and since I know more than you, it will take me longer to realize that I do not know anything."

I think it was something like that, but I am not sure. I know that these were not his exact words, so I will try to search for it online and see what I can find.

“When Socrates asked the Delphic oracle who was the wisest of men, the oracle replied that it was Socrates himself. Socrates was shocked to hear it. “Who, me?” he wondered. “I don’t know anything.” But as he contemplated the oracle’s answer, Socrates realized the oracle was right. Socrates indeed was wiser than other men. At least he knew he was ignorant; the others were ignorant and didn’t know it. As long as they were ignorant of their ignorance, they could never change it.”

by Michael Bauman

I have a long way to go until I realize that.

So for now, I hope that I am changing people's lives for the better. I dream of reaching everyone that wants to be helped and I hope to learn and grow with them.

I dream of changing the world and I am sure that I am not the only one. Maybe one day I will realize that I do not know anything and I will just get lost in the void of the universe...

The Three Steps Of Having Women Come To You

How can you get to be so good with women that you do not have to ever go out and pick up women?

I hate the word "pick-up". I hate the fact that I have to go out with the pure purpose to run after women.

Real men do not go out of their way to meet women.

Real men are focused on their life purpose and whenever they meet a woman on their life path, they bring her along for the ride of her life.

I know many of you are reading this and are thinking "Yes, this sounds very poetic and all (by the way, people tend to believe things that are poetic) but HOW THE FUCK DO I DO IT".

I will break it down for you.

First, and most importantly: You Have To Believe That You Are Worthy of Everything You Desire, Dream Of, and Want.

I have a lot of friends that say, “I would love to have a Porsche”, but most of them do not feel that they are worthy of having one. For them, it is not even a dream, but more like a fantasy.

I also have friends that do own a Porsche and for them, it was always just a matter of time before they got one. It was never a question of whether they would have one or not. It was more like, “Ah ya, Porsche. No biggie. I will get mine.”

When it comes to women, you have to feel the same way. You have to know in your body that you are worthy of having the women that you desire.

The Second Step: Get In Touch With Your Purpose.

We are all here for a reason.

What is the reason that you are here? Why do you wake up in the morning?

“Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose. Just this self-knowledge often relieves much pressure a man feels to prioritize his relationship when, in fact, it is not his highest priority.”
David Deida

When you approach life in that manner, you are a real man.

I have asked a lot of women (and I mean women, not girls), "So what kind of man do you like?"

Most of the time, I have gotten the response “I want a MAN.” Or if they want to be sweet, they will say, “I want a MANLY man.”

Women want to know that you are focused on your life and that you go after what you want and that she cannot move you from your life path. Believe me, she will try to do so, just to see if you are man enough to stay on your life path. If you get off your path because of her, she will lose her attraction for you.

Step Three: Learn About Women.

Learn why they are so beautiful and why they make the world a better, happier place with their beauty.

Understand women on a deeper level, appreciate women on a deeper level.

See the beauty in her and then bring it out of her and cherish it, and she will melt in your hands.

So how do you do that?

The best way for you would be to get your ass in one of the workshops that I lead.

Second, maybe you can convince me to give you some coaching.

Go out there, read books, practice.

Learn from those around you who are better than you.

But no matter what you decide to do, and I know you will do something to become better men because you are already here reading this,

BE AWARE, BE PRESENT.

You can learn from every interaction you have with every woman, if you are there, present, and aware of what is going on.

These are the 3 steps to have women just come into your life without you having to go out to “pick them up”.

Once you master them, when you go out to have a drink with your buddy, I promise you that an amazing woman will appear out of nowhere, and she will get lost in your eyes, and all you will have to do is reach your arm out and say, “Let's get out of here.”

Crazy, you think. I say magical.

How could that possibly happen, you might ask?

When you are that kind of man, she will be able to see you from a mile away and she will gravitate to you.

When you are that kind of man, you will see her half a mile away (a woman will always be more aware, so she will see you first) and you will gravitate to her and, like I said, all you need to do is reach out and lead her.

Check my Podcast on Foreplay it will give you better understanding on how to have more women in your life

"Foreplay: Advanced Techniques"

"Foreplay: The Basics"

How to escalate the interaction

Lately, my friends and I have been talking a lot about "Sexual Escalation", so I want to talk about that too and hopefully help you guys have a better understanding of it.

I feel like a lot of people understand sexual escalation as literally, "being sexual by what you are saying, and by doing a lot of kino."

Yes, it is very important what you say and, of course, how you say it. And yes, kino is important, but...

What I am saying is that if you like a girl, you should be sexual with her 24/7 from the very first second.

Here comes the key point that many men miss. You have to be in control of your sexuality, and you have to be in control of your sexual needs and desires.

You are in control of your sexuality; sexuality is not in control of your life.
You are in control of your emotions; you don't let your emotions control your life.

That drives women crazy.

So how do you escalate?

You show her all the time that you are very sexual and a sensitive being, but for her to get a taste of it, she needs to earn it.

Look at her in a seductive, sexual way. Be very comfortable with it, but don't even touch her.

It is very important that you hold the tension and that you don't smile. If she smiles, you keep that seductive look and show her that you are seriously thinking of her in a sexual way.

She will be like, “Why is he being so sexual but not doing anything about it?”

You are not doing anything because you are in control of yourself, and she will want to break that because she is not used to seeing a man like that. That, right there, is going to make her get closer to you and be sexual with you back.

If she is a very confident woman (the one that you want to be with, anyway) she will not try to break it. She will just feel comfortable around you so she can allow herself to be herself with you and to be sexual with you, too.

You want to have sex. You love to have sex, but you understand that sex is something very beautiful, intimate, and sacred.

For you, sex is not just sticking it inside of an object.

You understand that sex is about two people getting together to enjoy the beauty of each other, and sex is the way they celebrate the joy of each other.

So even though you want to have sex, you want to find someone that is worth your time, someone that is worthy of sharing that beauty with you.

Someone that is up to your standards!

So you are not going “all the way” because you are looking for the beauty inside of her. You might find it, you might not. No, until you find something that is special about her, you will not give her any more than a friendly hug. It goes back to the post, ”it is all about her”.

I don't want to make things dramatic, you can find a lot of things that you like in a woman in a matter of seconds, but for you to go all the way, you need more than that.

Then let's say you are very close to her physically. You have your arm around her because you found something special about her.

Then you can get very close to her lips and tell her “I really want to kiss you right now, you are so sexy and beautiful but I need to get to know you better first and I am not sure if you are ready for it.” Of course, you do not kiss her.

Again, that shows that you are in control of yourself and you will not let your emotions control your life, the same way you don't punch every person in the face that makes you angry.

Here comes a part that is hard to explain. You tell her, “I am not sure if you are ready for it”, only if she is really not ready for it.

What do I mean by this?

You don't want her to just open her legs for you, she might be ready for that.
You want her to cum for you like she has for no one else because that is what makes you feel like a man.

Is there anything more rewarding in life than for a man to elicit powerful desires, passions and responsiveness from a woman? If there is, I don't know of it.

For a woman to share her orgasm with you, she must trust you. If she does not trust you, she is not yet ready for your kiss.

If she is ready and you tell her, then you will blow it.

When I say I don't want her to just open her legs for me, I mean if she will not allow herself to have an orgasm, then how is that fun for me?

Sex is a dance that takes two people. If only one is dancing, or one is only in it half ass, what is the fun in that?

So this is how you escalate: by being in control of the interaction.

I see men approach and approach women, and the first one that opens to them is the one they go for.

This is not being in control.

Women are so used to controlling the interaction and that is so boring to them. They hate that.

If a woman gets horny, she knows that all she needs to do is put some sexy outfit on, go to the first bar she sees, and she will get what she wants because she knows men are not in control.

So when you show her that you are in control, it will drive her crazy and it will make her want you more.

The more she sees that you are in control, the more she will want you.

You could be very sexual, and you could be doing a lot of kino, and talk a lot about sex. Or you could just be sexual by simply looking at her in “that” way. You are not drooling all over her like you have never seen a woman before.

There is a lot to talk about, but I hope this will give you an idea of what it truly means to escalate, and if you do want to know more about how to escalate the interaction go get my Foreplay Podcasts right now:

"Foreplay: Advanced Techniques"

"Foreplay: The Basics"

LET ME SAY IT AGAIN. YOU ARE MAKING HER WANT YOU MORE AND MORE AND MORE (ESCALATING) BY BEING IN CONTROL OF YOURSELF AND OF THE INTERACTION.

"300"

So I just want to say thank you so much to all the great responses that I got after I posted “It is all about her”.

You guys really made me happy saying all the things you had to say you inspire me to keep going.

So I just saw “300”

I really like it since I saw it in the I-max I really got to experience it.

What I want to say is that this film is all about real man.

Men that know what they want, men that have real passion about life, man that believe in something and are ready to die for it, men that are not scared to go after what they want.

I know that this film is an extreme example but that is what women are attractive to, man that has a “back bone”.

If you want women to like you find your passion in life, find what is it that you want so badly that you are ready to die for it and go after it.

When you do that women will run after you.

Be the man that she has fantasy's about since she was a little girl.

I know I am being extreme here but the idea is that if you get half of what I am trying to say it will be so powerful for you.

Keep your cool when things get hot, don't be scared to be vulnerable in front of her, don't be scared to ask her for advice.

Respect yourself and respect her, treat her as equal (not more like a lot of "nice guys" do and not less like a lot of "bad boys" do)

So this film make me think about all this things so I wanted to share them with all of you.

PS: Same feeling I get from “Sin City”

It is all about her.

OK if you want to be successful with your interaction with women I will give you a very simple way of doing it.

You should also keep it on the core of your interaction with women.

Most guys are thinking what do I say to a woman so she can like me.

This is the very first mistake man do.

First of all the question is not “whether does she likes you” the question is “whether do you like her”

When you talk to her look at her, search for the beauty inside of her, find what makes her different from all the rest of the women that you have ever met before.

What makes her unique.

I will go that far to even say forget that you even have a dick.

Concentrate on her and when you need your dick I promise you it will be there.

If you do that you will have so much more things to talk about because it will be so easy for you to connect with her and to find a common grown, to find a place where you connect with her.

It is not just her face, her figure, or her voice.

Look into her eyes and find what is behind them, find her spirit and let it be free.

Allow her to be herself with you.

Find the little baby girl that is trying to be a grown mature woman.

If you can do that, women will not be able to say no to you even if they want to, and if they do say no is because they want to say yes so badly that is scaring them.

For those women you can not do anything about they do not want to allow themselves to be free and that is something that they need to work on.

I think what I am trying to say it is described best on this quoth form the film “Don Juan DeMarco”

Women react to me the way that they do, Don Ottavio,
because they sense that I search out the beauty that
wells within them, until it overwhelms everything, and
then they cannot avoid their desires to release that
beauty and envelope me in it." Don Juan DeMarco

When you do talk to her feel her softness and warmness and that will make her weightless.

Smell her perfume and experience how does it make you feel how it brings tears to your eyes.

I want you to fell how she smells like angels ought to smell.

If you do all this instate of thinking about your dick and instate how can you get her to get in bed with you, you will be able to get a lot more quality women in your bed.

I do believe women are Gods master peace, they are the Gods best creation, they are the best art peace in the world so I treat it and appreciate it in that way.

It hurts me to see guys mistreat this art, but what hurts me even more is to see women mistreat themselves.

When I was a kid my mom use to say “there is nothing more powerful them a woman that knows her price”.

PS: let me brag a bit yesterday after AoA I went to celebrate our successful kick ass workshop with all the instructors we go to have diner and there comes the waitress of course all the instructors jump on her.
But who got her phone number? Me.
Why? I can tell you is not because I know the best technic, not at all.
It is because I did everything I just describe.

All I do is: I do what I just describe and I say “hi” and the rest just unfold right before my eyes.

The right discipline

A man is born gentle and weak.
At his death he is hard and stiff.
Green Plants are tender and filled with sap.
At their death they are withered and dry.
Therefore the stiff and unbending is the discipline of death.
The gentle and yielding is the discipline of life.

Verse 76

Soft and weak overcome hard and strong.

Verse 36

Lao Tzu

March 8: the international day of the woman.

Hi guys I just want to remind every men out there that today March 8 is the international day of the women.

Since I love women so much this is easily my favored holiday of the year.

I want to encourage every men to show their appreciation for all the women in their life a little more today.

Call them and tell them how much you appreciate them and how happy you are to have them in your life.

Start with your mom.

Also all the new women you meet today give them a little more then usual.

Love and light to all of you.

From the Captain.