Friday, July 13, 2007

I am a dreamer but I am not the only one

I dream for a better, happier world where people just get along... and yes, I am a fool, but I cannot help it. I have to follow my heart.

I go about my day and I see people that are not happy. I see people that settle with what they have, from their jobs to the people in their lives, and it hurts me.

I want to see people with their heads up and a smile on.

I see people afraid to go after what they want because they're afraid to lose what they already have, even if they are not happy with it.

I see people afraid of going after what they want because they might actually get it, and that scares them.

I see people afraid to surrender themselves to their hearts because they are afraid that they might get hurt.

Basically, I see people living in fear.

I am afraid too. I am scared like a little boy, but that is why I know I have to keep going and keep trying and to see what life has in store for me.

I have to know that at least I tried.

“If I have even just a little sense, I will walk on the main road and my only fear will be of straying from it.” Lao Tzu

I will tell you that a lot of times I get scared and I want to run like a little boy back to mommy.

Other times, I feel very lonely because very few people support you when you go after what your heart wants, instead of going after what is safe or what society expects of you.

I have lost a lot of friends along the way, but I have also found out who my real friends are, friends who I know will be there no matter what.

Many times I have asked myself the question, "Am I doing the right thing?"

I will tell you, your heart always knows the truth.

I will be the first to admit that I haven't always followed my heart, but time has showed me that it was always right.

So I am a dreamer and I dream of helping people walk with their heads up and with a smile on.

I go around and I teach men how to understand women better and I like to think that I am helping them, but who am I to tell you how things are? I am only human.

I only know what I have seen. Maybe you know more than I, but that is why I am more fortunate than most of you, because I go and teach 10 people at a time and I learn from all of them.

I grow every time I teach.

The funny thing is that the more I learn, the more I see that I do not know anything.

I think Socrates once told his student, "You know more than I because the more you know, the longer it will take you to realize that you do not know anything, and since I know more than you, it will take me longer to realize that I do not know anything."

I think it was something like that, but I am not sure. I know that these were not his exact words, so I will try to search for it online and see what I can find.

“When Socrates asked the Delphic oracle who was the wisest of men, the oracle replied that it was Socrates himself. Socrates was shocked to hear it. “Who, me?” he wondered. “I don’t know anything.” But as he contemplated the oracle’s answer, Socrates realized the oracle was right. Socrates indeed was wiser than other men. At least he knew he was ignorant; the others were ignorant and didn’t know it. As long as they were ignorant of their ignorance, they could never change it.”

by Michael Bauman

I have a long way to go until I realize that.

So for now, I hope that I am changing people's lives for the better. I dream of reaching everyone that wants to be helped and I hope to learn and grow with them.

I dream of changing the world and I am sure that I am not the only one. Maybe one day I will realize that I do not know anything and I will just get lost in the void of the universe...

Friday, July 6, 2007

The Three Steps Of Having Women Come To You

How can you get to be so good with women that you do not have to ever go out and pick up women?

I hate the word "pick-up". I hate the fact that I have to go out with the pure purpose to run after women.

Real men do not go out of their way to meet women.

Real men are focused on their life purpose and whenever they meet a woman on their life path, they bring her along for the ride of her life.

I know many of you are reading this and are thinking "Yes, this sounds very poetic and all (by the way, people tend to believe things that are poetic) but HOW THE FUCK DO I DO IT".

I will break it down for you.

First, and most importantly: You Have To Believe That You Are Worthy of Everything You Desire, Dream Of, and Want.

I have a lot of friends that say, “I would love to have a Porsche”, but most of them do not feel that they are worthy of having one. For them, it is not even a dream, but more like a fantasy.

I also have friends that do own a Porsche and for them, it was always just a matter of time before they got one. It was never a question of whether they would have one or not. It was more like, “Ah ya, Porsche. No biggie. I will get mine.”

When it comes to women, you have to feel the same way. You have to know in your body that you are worthy of having the women that you desire.

The Second Step: Get In Touch With Your Purpose.

We are all here for a reason.

What is the reason that you are here? Why do you wake up in the morning?

“Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose. Just this self-knowledge often relieves much pressure a man feels to prioritize his relationship when, in fact, it is not his highest priority.”
David Deida

When you approach life in that manner, you are a real man.

I have asked a lot of women (and I mean women, not girls), "So what kind of man do you like?"

Most of the time, I have gotten the response “I want a MAN.” Or if they want to be sweet, they will say, “I want a MANLY man.”

Women want to know that you are focused on your life and that you go after what you want and that she cannot move you from your life path. Believe me, she will try to do so, just to see if you are man enough to stay on your life path. If you get off your path because of her, she will lose her attraction for you.

Step Three: Learn About Women.

Learn why they are so beautiful and why they make the world a better, happier place with their beauty.

Understand women on a deeper level, appreciate women on a deeper level.

See the beauty in her and then bring it out of her and cherish it, and she will melt in your hands.

So how do you do that?

The best way for you would be to get your ass in one of the workshops that I lead.

Second, maybe you can convince me to give you some coaching.

Go out there, read books, practice.

Learn from those around you who are better than you.

But no matter what you decide to do, and I know you will do something to become better men because you are already here reading this,


You can learn from every interaction you have with every woman, if you are there, present, and aware of what is going on.

These are the 3 steps to have women just come into your life without you having to go out to “pick them up”.

Once you master them, when you go out to have a drink with your buddy, I promise you that an amazing woman will appear out of nowhere, and she will get lost in your eyes, and all you will have to do is reach your arm out and say, “Let's get out of here.”

Crazy, you think. I say magical.

How could that possibly happen, you might ask?

When you are that kind of man, she will be able to see you from a mile away and she will gravitate to you.

When you are that kind of man, you will see her half a mile away (a woman will always be more aware, so she will see you first) and you will gravitate to her and, like I said, all you need to do is reach out and lead her.

Check my Podcast on Foreplay it will give you better understanding on how to have more women in your life

  • "Foreplay: Advanced Techniques"

  • "Foreplay: The Basics"