I am going to be straightforward with you and cut through the bullshit.
You DO NOT HAVE A CHOICE!
You DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING!
As Jesus’ words on the cross “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”
Here is the exercise for you:
Answer these questions:
Do you know what you are doing?
Do you know why you are doing what you are doing?
Are you aware of your actions?
Are you present to the things you are doing at every given moment?
Are you aware of the words that are coming out of your mouth? Or they are just coming out based on a reaction that was triggered by something?
You are stuck! Do you ever find yourself dating the “same” woman over and over again? Do you find yourself in the “same” situations over and over again? Do you find yourself repeating the “same” mistakes over and over again?
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”
You are living in an illusion!
Wake the fuck up!
See I know that choose is a nice word and we all want to have choose. If you think you have choice will you keep on choosing dysfunctional relationships or any other negative situation in your life? Choice can only happen if you are present and conscious in the moment. Choice implies a high degree of consciousness. Without it you have no choice. Choice begins the moment you disidentify from your conditioned patterns, the moment you become present. That goes to say that you are unconscious. Which means that you are compelled to think, feel, and act in certain ways according to your patterns and conditioning. Some think that the more you have in the world in form of money, intelligence, resources and so on the more choose you have. I want to make it very clear that how smart, intelligent, good, attractive, generous, funny, wild and clever you are does not have anything to do with how present you are. All these things are wonderful, but they become a problem when you start identifying yourself with them. The more you identify yourself with this external stuff the less presence you have and the more unconscious you are.
You know that voice in your head? That voice is your biggest obstacle to being present. Why do you think people go out to bars, clubs and parties and drink themselves to unconsciousness? May be people do that not because they want to become unconscious but simple because they want to become conscious. They want to make that voice in their head shut the fuck up for a moment and just let them be, although they are not aware that this is one of the biggest reasons why they are drinking so much (you can easily replace drinking with drugs). That voice in your head has a life of its own. That voice in your head is controlling you, it is telling you what to do and is tiring as fuck to listen to it all day long. Most people are at the mercy of that voice; they are possessed by it, by the mind. And since the mind is conditioned by the past, you are then forced to reenact the past over and over again. The voice in your head (that you think is you) is conditioned by your past so it always seeks to re-create what it knows and is familiar with. Even if it is painful, at least it is familiar. It always attaches to what it knows. The unknown is dangerous because it has no control over it.
Is there any resistance anywhere in you to what I am saying? Are you (your mind) totally confused by what I am saying? Are you ready to defend yourself and prove me wrong? Let me save you some time. Yes, I am totally and completely wrong and you are totally and completely right…
Take a moment and breath in everything that just happened. If you have to - go back, and read it again, and take it in, and notice where it is landing.
Someone, not sure who, has said:
“The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory.”
Well how does it feel in your body to have nothing to fight against? Or do you keep on fighting? Or may be you just scratched me off, judging and thinking that I am simply crazy and you cannot argue with a crazy person? Does the voice in your head telling you that I am wrong? Does that voice feel threatened in any way? Well again you are totally right and yes, I am completely crazy…
Are you confused yet?
See we all have created patterns and ways of being that have served us greatly at some point or another in our lives. If you still have resentment for your parents about something that they have done or have not done, thinking that they had the choice, you are still identifying yourself with those patterns. And unfortunately for us all those patterns have taken over us. They have been taking over, with us not even being aware of it. As a result of that we are acting most of the time from that place without us even knowing about it or even being aware of it. We do not have a choice any more. Our life is being run by it.
It seems like we, our parents, our intimate partners, or our friends have a choice, but that is an illusion. Nobody chooses dysfunction, conflict, and pain. They happen because there is not enough presence. You have not quite woken up yet. In the mean time, the voice in your head and the conditioned patterns of your mind are running your life.
So go back to where I said that you do not have a choice and that you are living in an illusion and just for a moment check the idea that I might be right. I am not saying that I am, I am simply asking you to just try on the idea, the concept that I might be right. Wear it on like you are trying a new shirt and see how it feels on your body and how you look with it.
So what I would like you to do is:
Sit down and write down every place you find patterns in your life. May be you always end up with the same kind of woman? May be you keep on doing the same mistake over and over again? May be you are finding yourself in the same kind of problems over and over again? Also simply look if you are thinking over and over about the same things. Since we are here to learn about women look for your patterns with women. But it does not really matter. I think in “Land Mark” is that they say, “the way you do anything is the way you do everything”.
Do not judge it in anyway. Whether is bad or good - it does not matter. Who are you to determine good from bad? What is good anyway? What is bad? It simply is!
The reason I want you to do this is:
The only way to change a behavior, pattern is to bring awareness to it, to simply notice it and see it there.
Or another thing you r can do is:
Come to one of the many workshops I have across the country and I would be your tour guide caring a flashlight that I will shine it into the darkness. I use the world darkness simply because if you are not aware of something, and you do not know of it, you are on the dark about it. The awareness we can bring to it in a workshop environment is the light that shines, and no darkness can exist in the presence of light.
It will not disappear but you will have a choice around it. You still might want to choose to act from that place but it is no longer controlling you now, you have the choice to keep acting from that place or not.
“The eye with which I see God is the very same eye with which God sees me”
Email me or call me at:
415.531.2487 to get info for a workshop coming up close to you
Love and Light on your way